tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-68675500348412099642024-02-07T21:25:45.732+13:00Well behaved women rarely make history"I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish small tasks as if they were great and noble." Helen KellerScuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.comBlogger155125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-72578473283844087762016-03-30T16:00:00.000+13:002016-03-30T16:00:00.266+13:00Our first Ballroom class
I decided to blog about starting
ballroom dancing. Maybe I can encourage others to join us. We decided to take
ballroom classes for a variety of reasons, I can’t speak for J, but for myself
the idea of being able to dance with my boyfriend and know a set of rules that
would mean we had legitimacy on a dance floor was pretty appealing. I used to dance, a lot, shamelessly, and with
joy.Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-82361567561449098892016-03-16T12:30:00.000+13:002016-03-16T18:46:18.215+13:00The chubby canary in a feminist mine
Most people have
heard the ‘canary in the mine” thing, but I’m just going to quickly explain. Back in the days before electronic testing,
miners would carry a caged canary in the mine with them. If carbon monoxide built up then
the canary would die before the man, and give him a heads up to get out of
there a.s.a.p. So yeah, the canary was handy, but it got the rough end of the
deal.
Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-86352274214909520662016-03-14T12:30:00.000+13:002016-03-14T12:30:12.166+13:00Unsuccessful IRL…
Keyboard
warriors… people with nothing better to do… SJWs, unsuccessful IRL… not helping
in the REAL world…
I quit one of
my volunteer roles last week and cried hard about it. I will miss the people I work
with, the fun we have, and the identity I held as a volunteer for that
organisation. But one of the strangest reasons my volunteer work is important
to me, is that as a feminist online theScuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-79848334879729577262015-03-21T14:47:00.000+13:002015-03-21T14:47:07.007+13:00Hitting a window.
Yesterday a Kereru flew into a window. It made the most
almighty crash. The poor thing hit the window, dropped to the sloped roof, and
rolled down to the car park with a thud.
It was in a public building. Everyone stood by windows,
staring. Most people’s initial response was “wow, that gave me a fright”. They didn’t ask “is it ok?” in fact, they didn’t
ask much to do with the bird at Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-75995600145687731732014-11-18T22:25:00.001+13:002014-11-18T22:32:10.989+13:00It's PC gone mad, the feminazis are winning...
I’ve found it fascinating watching the men and women around
me and on social media discussing a high profile case this week.
Roger Sutton resigned from Cera after sexual harassment claims were made.
There has been an overwhelmingly male chorus singing from a
familiar song book. I may be being unfair to men, in that in most cases they
spoke over the top of, or instead of women, so the women mayScuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-19471620139189618222014-08-21T09:30:00.000+12:002014-08-21T14:53:25.857+12:00National Party alleged rape culture
TW: Discussion of rape culture.
In
all the anger about the revelations in Nicky Hager’s book, I’ve seen massive
discussions and posts about the SIS, Judith Collins’s toxic behaviour, and the
various systems of corruption visible in the transcripts.
Mainstream media has
been transfixed on Cameron Slater, Kim Dotcom, and the Key personalities
involved (capitalisation and pun intended). There Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-80218926867947206012014-08-12T12:27:00.000+12:002014-08-12T12:27:04.518+12:00Remembering Robin Williams with Pride
Robin Williams died last night. There is nothing more final, more complete. But people around the world are sharing his stories, his jokes, and his characters. People will remember him for generations thanks to the work he chose to do, making people happy.
I want you all for a moment to step back from how he died, to how long he lived with his troubles. What those troubles are is irrelevant. Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-66000186872344306422014-07-17T18:15:00.000+12:002014-07-17T18:15:35.390+12:00Shouting from water skis Sometimes being a woman
in a male dominated field feels a bit like trying to teach from water-skis.
No water-skis are not
the best platform to teach from.
No people don’t hear you
as well over the roar of engines and water.
Yes, you will probably fail
more often
You lose people’s
attention more when people are focused on where you are rather than what you
are saying.
It’s exhausting, and
Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-65409003578865582342014-06-27T16:00:00.000+12:002014-06-27T21:06:23.919+12:00Why I think you are Creepy.I
started to write a piece on what sends out warning signs for “rapey” behaviour,
and before I got too far I decided I wanted current examples from twitter
discussions. Scrolling through the conversations happening under the terms rape
and consent on twitter I came to a startling realisation.I had never
considered why someone would argue in support of someone’s rape behaviour, and I
suddenly Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-1472626652812404672014-06-27T12:30:00.000+12:002014-06-27T12:34:08.927+12:00Silence, because not everyone feels able to speak up...Today is the National day of
silence.
This is a piece written by an ally for allys, it is very 101 level, please keep this in mind.
“The National Day of Silence is a day of action in which students acrossthe country vow to take a form of silence to call attention to the silencingeffect of homophobic, biphobic and transphobic bullying, name-calling andharassment in schools. The goal of the DayScuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-31791456192158522722014-06-18T16:18:00.000+12:002014-06-19T13:54:52.869+12:00I am a feminist, I am not feminism.
I recently had a
conversation with a friend about the fact that they don’t want to identify as a
feminist because they like wearing makeup. They care about their appearance,
they enjoy playing with face paint (as I like to call it), and they are sick of
the shit they have been getting for it. (Before this starts a minor riot of sub-tweets,
my friend lives in the USA, she is not part of the Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-90596453631918270392014-05-27T16:30:00.000+12:002014-05-28T11:49:39.531+12:00#YesAllWomen are being asked "What can I do?"I’ve had
several discussions with men I know and love, and trust over the last few days under the #YesAllWomen.
Many have expressed horror, some disgust, and a few were surprised at the
alarming number of awful stories highlighting what it is to be a woman in
public.
I’ve also watched men I don’t know
struggle with the concept online in public spaces, often with less class or
integrity than the Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-74114059252563100492014-05-21T14:08:00.000+12:002014-05-21T14:08:03.605+12:00Trigger warnings.Just saying...
Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-18703443848308113202014-03-13T07:00:00.001+13:002014-03-13T08:39:42.486+13:00To the Jerk at the track, from the Fatty.
There was a charming piece on my Facebook last
night, shared by some athlete’s page, and linked
to me because a friend “liked it”.it came from a site page here
When I read it my heart sank, because not only was
it the usual bullshit fat tropes, but it expected me to treat the writer like a
hero for realising fat people are, well… people.
This isn’t a news flash to some of us, and I was
Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-85895545166240004722013-12-12T15:42:00.003+13:002013-12-12T15:42:31.931+13:00Not bad for a bunch of internet perverts.
A little over
2 years ago my mum looked concerned at the idea I was meeting a few women for brunch
who I had met on the internet. It wasn’t a date; it was just likeminded people,
meeting for coffee, because we had got along really well on twitter.
Mum’s train
of thought was that only perverts talk to strangers on the internet, how do you
know they are really nice ladies, and not creepy dudesScuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-13306903656353590572013-11-12T16:28:00.001+13:002013-11-12T16:28:49.859+13:00Chicago, Auckland Music theatre 2013, Scube's perspective
We booked a group of over 30 people to see Chicago by ATC on the strength of "Lucy Lawless is in it" and "Michael Hurst is directing", and to be honest I didnt worry too much beyond that.
It’s not
often you go to an Auckland show and see a Shortland street actorSHHHH LET ME
FINISH! See a Shortland Street actor AND take half the show to recognise who
they are. Amanda Billings played the roleScuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-6975438846790154302013-11-06T10:49:00.001+13:002013-11-06T10:49:17.337+13:00How could this happen? - T/WT/W - Discusses rape, victim blaming, and the Roast Busters case.
How could this happen?
I’ve heard so many people in the last week ask “how could this happen?” “How could this go on for so long?”, “why don’t the girls come forward?” when talking about the news about the repulsive predatory behaviour of a group of young men.
Tragically, they usually answer the question themselves, and in a Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-32373674199862252502013-11-04T22:01:00.000+13:002013-11-11T19:20:33.202+13:00The Baying Mob or How I carry a torch.
So, you are horrified by the “Roast Busters”, and want to make
a difference, but what can you do?
In my more frustrated moments, I would love to be that
person carrying a torch at the front of a baying mob, crying for justice and
making a difference to the outcome of a trial of people who have hurt someone
else.
But we don’t live in a village of 100 people. These young men are not the Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-41823637675658562242013-09-26T14:00:00.000+12:002013-09-26T14:26:14.902+12:00Sinfest's Sisterhood.Oh man, this is how I felt as I started to submerge below the surface of feminism and activism... the more you see...
Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-25496502667768647452013-09-03T15:06:00.000+12:002013-09-03T15:06:24.057+12:00Online dating is for WINNERS. (also, people who dont like being vomited on)
My actual last messages
on dating forums…
Try to imagine the chirp of crickets after each one...
I love opera
No, racism isn’t really
something that I’m into.
No when I say I’m
involved in community I mean I volunteer, not that I am involved in the TV
show.
Um, I do identify as a
feminist.
Have you tried
geocaching?
I didn’t fill in the “kids”
question because I think that Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-62757572983058474072013-07-09T15:04:00.000+12:002013-07-09T15:10:03.997+12:00Speech for the NCWNZ July 2013
At the request
of some attending the National women's council of NZ Auckland meeting, I am
posting the following speech on my blog.
I was given the
briefing that I would be on a panel talking about my interesting workplaces
from a woman’s perspective, the barriers and challenges I face. Other speakers
were unable to attend and at the last minute I changed my notes to a more
formal Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-53765672801626384462013-06-18T17:13:00.003+12:002013-06-18T17:23:10.055+12:00Auckland Libraries brings the Fun!!
Keen to see the library buildings used for more than just reading and storage? Want to take back your local library with an event that makes you THINK?
Join Auckland Libraries as they question, challenge and celebrate sex and sexuality on the page, stage and screen with a special series of thought-provoking events for over-18s.
Dark night celebrates diversity across the borders of gender, Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-6290227844283533402013-06-12T12:16:00.000+12:002013-06-12T12:26:04.135+12:00Winners can’t be victims?
Massive trigger warning for rape and assault,
domestic violence, and victim blaming.
Please
note that I repeatedly use the term Victim in this piece. This is a term a lot
of people choose to leave behind in their recovery from assault, domestic
violence and rape, for the purpose of moving on, and empowerment.
Please
understand that the term is used to point out the power imbalance in the
Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-49882858929055485622013-05-20T16:00:00.000+12:002013-05-20T16:00:05.374+12:00Equality, the final frontier. Where no man has gone before?
I came out of the latest
Star trek film feeling angry, and let down.
In a film set in a future
that is supposed to be pretty damn idealistic (great tech,
multicultural/multi-planetary teams, etc.) this film was behind the times NOW.
This film just felt like
one big "Male Gaze"
to the point where at times I felt physically pushed out of the moment of
enjoying a story by the Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867550034841209964.post-61806194808514414612013-05-14T22:26:00.000+12:002013-05-14T22:26:44.754+12:00Angelina Jolie, cancer, and why you might have privilege too...
I got severely shitty with the large number of “check your privilege”
tweets on twitter today about Angelina Jolie’s news that she had opted for
preventative bilateral total mastectomies due to her genetic risk for breast
cancer. My reasons for being so grumpy went deeper than 140 characters could
explain, so I kept my mouth shut and waited until I got home to write this.
The fundamental issue Scuba Nursehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00248129325790275090noreply@blogger.com3